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Wednesday, December 3, 2014

The New Re-Invented 'Turning Point Motivation' Blog



In the writing world there is a term referred to as ‘killing your darlings‘. That’s why I’ve decided to do with this blog. No, I’m not getting rid of ‘Turning Point Motivation’ but I am going to take it in a new direction.

I’ve always had a vision of having an outlet and a platform for my motivational rants, and passion for the self-help industry, but I’ve realized that so do a thousand others.

I don’t want this blog to look like a thousand others, or sound like a thousand others.

I don’t want to only post Pollyanna-ish you can do it type rhetoric.

Going forward I want to focus this blog more to the readers who think like me, and are looking for the same information that I’m looking for.

Po Bronson, The Author of What Should I do with my life , said that you should never waste your readers time.

I value your readership, and hope you continue to come back over and over again, as I grow this blog (TPM is still so young), and I hope that you will take away some value information from the things I post here.

So that’s why I’ve decided to change directions.

If you blog, or write, or are an artist, or do anything creative consider subscribing to the new Turning Point Motivation. This blog will now focus on helping creative people of all types.

And if there is something you want me to blog about, just let me know in the comments, or through my contacts page.

To kick off this new direction I’m going to leave you with a few links as a preview of the type of content I’m going to post.

We’ll start off with writing, If you’re tired of off-line resources (books) and want some valuable writing advice about fiction, and blog writing, check out the blog that I frequent the most and recommend,

Aliventures

For contrarian marketing advice from the most unique marketing individual I know of off-line and online check out Seth Godin. Seth is different, his quips make you think, he dares you to be different and stand out from the crowd, see his book Linchpin and check out his blog,

Seth Godin Blog

Robert Bly, or Bob Bly, sound familiar? Bob is a legend in the direct-response copywriting world. Even if you don’t buy any of his books (he’s published 70 or more so far) or buy his info products, subscribe to his newsletter, you’ll get a ton of free marketing and copywriting advice and resources even if you don’t buy any of his info products, his emails alone are worth studying to learn how a master copywriter writes. I own tons of Bob’s material, I’ll be surprised if you don’t own at least one,

Robert Bly Blog

Here’s one I’m throwing in as a bonus, unlike Seth Godin, or Bob Bly, you may have never heard of this guy. Steven Pressfield. He wrote the book The War of Art , he writes historial fiction. I’ve never read any of his fiction, but I like the way he writes, and blogs, and I loved The War of Art. He blogs every Wednesday,

Steven Pressfield

I hope you like the new direction, let me know what you think, and subscribe so that you don’t miss a post!

22 Self-Help Books That Will Change the Way You Think Forever, Part 1



I am a self-help book junkie, I have been all my life. I’ve amassed quite a library of self-Help books.

This is part 1 of a 2 part blog post. Below you’ll find 10 of my all-time favorite self-help books that I’ve read, that have changed my way of thinking forever (in a good way).

Some people may argue that all these titles don’t fall under the self-help genre, but according to my train of thought… if the book helps you, it’s self-help.

Some of these books are now considered ancient, others timeless classics. You may have heard of the more popular titles, and there are a few titles that you may have never heard of before.

The one thing they all have in common for me was that they changed the way I thought after reading them…I hope one or more of these books do the same for you.

1. The Power of the Subconcious Mind by Joseph Murphy

Back when I first discovered this book in the early eighties, there weren’t a lot of books on the power of the subconscious mind in the bookstore. This is still available in mass market paperback for under $10. Today there are hundreds of titles available on the power of your subconscious mind.

This was the first one I discovered, that made me realize that we only use a fraction of our brain power, that our conscious mind is just the tip of the iceberg. If you are already familiar with the power of your subconscious mind, you can skip this one, but for beginners who want to start with a classic, start with this book.

2. Born to Succeed by Colin Turner

I actually got this book at a used bookstore for $5 when I found it years ago. It’s still available though it may be hard to find, but if you do find it, it’s worth every word.

Colin Turner is an English Businessman, self-made millionaire who lives in Monaco today. I doubt you’ve ever heard of him, I would be surprised if you’ve heard of him. He’s not famous, but this is one of my favorite books. My paperback has bent and torn corners, is highlighted and filled with notes.

This is more than you’re average self-help book. It’s hard to describe what makes this book so motivating. I found this book right around the time I discovered Tony Robbins. Colin is like the british version of Tony Robbins.

3. Looking out for #1 By Robert J. Ringer

This book is exactly what the title says, it’s about how people’s self-interest comes first. Robert Ringer is not a scientist, or a therapist, or a doctor. He is a business man turned philoshopher.

There is one interesting theory in this book about how people always end up doing what they want, even when it seems like it’s for somebody else, and also how people are always looking out for themselves even though they may seem like they are trying to look out for you.

I read this book over 15 years ago, so I won’t garble his theories here, but they are interesting…by now this book may be very hard to find. I have the mass market paperback.

If you like this book, you may want to check out his other titles, Winning through Intimidation, and Million Dollar habits

4. The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker

I recommend this book to every woman out there. This book can save your life! This book is about using your gut instinct, and intuition to keep you from being hurt by predators.

This is not a light-hearted, motivational, or inspirational book. But it’s important! I think that all women (and men too) should read it.

This book can help prevent you from being a victim of sexual assault, domestic violence, stalking, and extortion.

Gavin DeBecker is a security expert, who runs his own private security consulting firm, he’s been on Oprah, and he consults for very high profile people.

For your own personal safety, please pick up this book.

5. No Rules: 21 Giant Lies about Success and How to Make it Happen Now by Dan S. Kennedy

This book is not for the timid. This book motivates you to be bold, to do the opposite of what everybody else is doing, and to have big cohones, on your road to success.

Dan Kennedy is a legend in the off-line direct marketing and copywriting world. He is known as the millionaire-maker. He tells it like it is…and coming off as a nice guy isn’t his strong suit. But he’s not in business to be nice, he’s in business to make money, and he doesn’t care what you think of him. I can see how some people would be turned off by his attitude. You either love him, or hate him. I love him, and his no BS style.

Dan has authored a whole set of no BS books, but if you need someone to light a fire under your arse, this is the book to read.

Dan Kennedy’s writing style will remind you of a bootcamp army sargeant yelling at you from the pages of a book.

This is another book I bought used years ago. It’s no longer in print, but you should be able to find it.

6. The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Before Donald Trump wrote Think Big, and Kick Ass, There was David J. Schwartz. If you’re stuck thinking small this book will change your mindset.

I remember reading this book on the bus in my early twenties, and another man on the same bus spotted me reading it, and came over to shake my hand, and rave about the book. He said it changed his life. I remember I was near the end of the book when I met this stranger.

It’s one of those books that makes you feel like you can do anything, and then to have a stranger come up to me, who this book had the same effect on was something I will never forget. I hope it has the same effect on you.

7. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

I won’t say too much about this book here, because I already wrote a blog post about it. But I had to include it.

I put off reading this book for such a long time, because for some reason I had this idea that it would be hokey, but I was wrong. It is one of my favorite self-help books of all time. Find out why in this blog post.

8. Mind Power Into The 21st Century By John Kehoe

Before ‘The Secret’ , we had John Kehoe. John Kehoe actually become a recluse in the woods for a whole year to write this book. If you liked ‘The Secret’ you will like this book. Back when this book was written nobody was writing books like this, there were only a handful of titles on the shelf with similar content.

It’s a fast read, and simple to understand. Another classic.

9. Secrets of Mind Power by Harry Lorayne

When I first saw this book I thought it was a kids book because of the cartoon on the front cover. I didn’t take it seriously until I started reading it. The funny thing is that Harry Lorayne is a memory expert, but this is a self-help book.

10. Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

After you finish reading this book, you will change the way you view money.

I picked up a used copy of this book years ago, way before Robert Kiyosaki had built his multi-million dollar franchise around the title.

Robert Kiyosaki is a real-estate millionaire who acquired enough money by in his mid 40’s to retire rich, but decided to share his knowledge of building wealth with the world instead. He’s been building his empire ever since.

This book is not about real-estate, it’s a primer on how money works written in layman’s terms. He’s published many other books under the ‘Rich Dad’ brand, but this is the original book that started it all.

I’ve met a lot of people who have had thier financial mindset changed by reading this book, for those of you who haven’t, pick it up and let me know what you think.

Those are the first 10 books, next week I will add 12 more in the second part to this post.

Let me know if you agree, or disagree with any of my picks.

This is a meditative blog post.



Whatever you are doing right now, I want you to stop and just be still for a moment.

All I’m asking you to do is read, scroll, and then ponder after you’ve finished reading the post.

Relax…and open your mind.

Every day you have pressures in your life being thrown at you from every angle. Work, school, home, friends, etc…

You go to through the same routine…work, commute, packed train ride, traffic jams. Once you’re at work you’re on the clock, and on the go, all day. Somebody is watching, and somebody is measuring your performance. It’s what you get compensated for.

You work, pays bills, get the car fixed, go shopping, and do things around the house, there are always a million things to do.

Is this what life is all about? Is this what you were born to do? Do you feel like you’re living life just for others…

What about you? What about what you want? What makes you happy…

Let’s stop focusing on the outside for a second. Let’s go inside.

Take a deep breath. Relax…Take another deep breath (feel it in your diaphragm) don’t think about anything. Not work, not money, not goals, not what you have to do…

Just breathe, look around you…enjoy the moment (even if it’s just for a minute). Pay attention to what’s going on around you, where ever you are,

This is what life should be all about…just enjoy the moment.

Read again, and repeat if necessary.

If you enjoyed this post, please share it with your friends on Facebook, Twitter, etc…

Now go and enjoy the rest of the day, no matter what day it is…

10 Ways To Come Up With Great Ideas

I call myself an Ideas Man, because I come up with ideas all the time. They’re not all good or great, but the stream is never-ending. In this post I’m going to share with you 10 different ways that I use to come up with great ideas.

Many people find it hard to come up with great ideas. That may be because they rarely have a reason to have to conjure them up. You might have to come up with ideas for work related issues, or you may just have a personal problem at home that you’re stumped on. It doesn’t matter…

One thing you’ll find is that the more you practice coming up with ideas, the easier they’ll come to you. Also you’ll want to be able to come up with a lot of them to filter the bad, from the good, and only be left with the great ones.

There is only one thing you need to come up with great ideas and that’s an open mind, if you have a closed mind it will be tougher for your mind to be open to receiving them.

After reading this post, you’ll have no problem coming up with endless ideas. Just try any one or more of the following 10 suggestions,

1. Think
This is easier said than done. Henry Ford said “thinking is the hardest thing there is, that’s why so few people do it.” Albert Einstein was rumored to have spent long hours staring out the window of his office comtemplating a problem. Both of these geniuses were not wasting time, they were thinking…it’s valuable time well spent.

2. Think hard, and then don’t do anything
This is similar to the first step, but with a twist. It works like muscle conditioning, but applied to your brain. Muscles only grow when challenged. The process goes something like this: muscles tear, learn and get stronger for the next time.

I believe the same principal can be applied to the brain to produce great ideas. Put extreme pressure on the brain, in one long hard thinking session. Think all day…and then just let go…don’t put pressure on yourself to produce a handful of ideas at the end of the session, just kick up your feet and do nothing!

Which brings me to the next point…

3. Relax
When you try to force yourself to think it’s tough for your brain to spew out great ideas under pressure.

The way I personally view the pressure to produce good ideas at work or at home is like this:

I use visualization. I picture my brain with a vice clamped onto it. In order to relax I picture myself easing up on the vice, allowing my brain to breathe. I take deep breaths from my diaphragm, I sit outside on a park bench in the sun. I do whatever I have to do to relax my mind. Once your mind is relaxed it will now be open to allowing great ideas to enter inside.

4. Take a shower
As cliché as at sounds, it works. You’ve probably heard people say this a thousand times “I get the best ideas when I’m in the shower”. The longer, the hotter, the better! This could follow your thinking sessions in steps 1, and 2.

Why does this work? I’m not really sure, but I bet it’s for the same reason chicken soup works for a cold. Nobody really knows why it works but it does, that’s why people suggest it all the time.

5. Always have a capturing device on hand
Once the great ideas start coming to you, you won’t be able to control when they come…in the shower, at the park, in your car.

Don’t make the mistake of not having a capturing device. I used to always tell myself “I will make a mental note to myself, and remember my great idea”. My memory has failed me, every time! I’ve never been able to recall the mental note I made to myself at a later date.

Always have a notepad, an ipod, and a pen…always walk, or drive, or commute with a capturing device and a back up capture device if the first one fails! (example pen clogged, or ipod battery drained).

6. Read books on coming up with great ideas
There are a lot of books out there that you could read, I don’t want you to go out and spend a lot of money, but here are two book suggestions that I consider classics that I found at a used bookstore.

One is a short read called, A Technique For Producing Ideas by James Webb Young. In advertising circles it’s a classic, it’s less than 50 pages long and can probably be read in 15 minutes.

The other, is another classic from the late 70’s called, A Whack On The Side of The Head by Roger Von Oech, I see this book all the time in used bookstores for less than $5.

These are not the only two books out there that can help you come up with creative ideas but they are a starting point. I’ve used them as an example because they are right in front of me in my book collection, and are top of mind.

7. Write down Random thoughts
I’ve been writing down random thoughts for years. I have dozens of notepads, notebooks, post-its, journals, and scrap pieces of paper all in a box, word docs, text docs, live journal posts. I don’t throw out, or delete anything! These are golden thoughts for me. All these notes are valuable. Sometimes I will revisit this box of notes or archived folder on my hard drive and come up with a new idea based on something I wrote years ago.

8. Make a mind map
Mind maps are the brain-child of Tony Buzan. For those of us who are non-linear thinks and don’t want to limit ourselves to notepads and making lists, mindmaps are a good alternative.

They are basically visual brainstorming, and supposed to mimic the way our brain connects ideas and thoughts. You start with a piece of paper draw a circle in the middle, draw lines all around the circle linking to new circles when you come up with anything related to the original circled thought, and when you’re finished you’ll have a visual web of inter-connected ideas and thoughts as a resource. It easier to look at than to explain here. Just google mind maps for thousands of examples.

9. Doodle
I know many of you are groaning, “but I can’t draw”. You don’t have to be an artist to doodle. Actually, you don’t even have to pay attention as you draw!

Just grab a pen or a pencil and a blank piece of paper and start to draw as you ponder the thought of coming up with ideas. Just let your hand do the drawing, don’t think too hard about the process, or whether something doesn’t look right. Why? Because you’ll stop drawing.

Here’s a tip! Doodle while on the phone. When you’re done you may have drawn or doodled a great idea, or maybe not. The point is to have fun with it!

10. Brainstorm
I left brainstorming until the end on purpose. I didn’t just want to write it as the first suggestion, because it’s the default answer that everybody assumes that you have to do to come up with great ideas.

Let’s just brainstorm! or have a brainstorming session! If you would have read this suggestion first, you may have not had an open mind to read the other 9 suggestions that followed.

How do you brainstorm? You, or a group of people just start throwing out any idea that comes to mind verbally, and then you record them on paper. It’s that easy! It’s how I came up with my 10 suggestions, but I wanted to give you as many options as possible.

I could probably come up with 10 more, but that’s another post.

I hope the list above jumpstarts your brain into producing great ideas, and if you have a great suggestion to add to this list please share them with the rest of us in the comments below.

One Of The Best Self-Help Books Ever!



As many of you already know I am a Self-help book junkie. I love Self-help books, gurus, and the whole self-development movement.

The other day I was doing laundry, and on the table where my neighbors leave their give-aways was what I consider one of the best self-help books of all-time.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R. Covey

I’d heard friends rave about the Seven Habits book for years, and resisted reading it. Why? Because to me it always sounded like one of those hop on the self-help bandwagon books.

There are other books I’ve resisted reading for the same reason, though other people I know rave about them too, like Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Don’t get me wrong, these are classic books in the self-development field, it’s just that they are over-hyped so much that I’ve personally written them off as Pop-psych, or outdated oldies, before cracking their spines to read them myself.

But The Seven Habits is different. This book is unlike any other Self-help book I have ever read. After I read it, it had such a profound effect on me (I experienced a paradigm shift) that I wanted to throw out all the other self-help books I had and just keep this one. If I did that, I would have to throw out half my book collection! So imagine my reaction when I saw that one of neighbors had abandoned their copy in the laundry room on the linen table.

I know what you’re thinking…what makes this book different from any other self-help book bestseller at my local bookstore?

Sorry…I’m not going to spoil it for you in this blog post. I will only tell you that this book, to me, is like the bible of self-help! A book you should keep beside your bed, that your spouse should read, that your kids should read. If you’ve read it, you should read it again, if you haven’t read it, then you should read it as soon as possible.

One warning though, I’ve heard it from other people, and I’ve experienced it myself…It’s slow to start. You may be tempted to put the book down for this reason near the beginning, but don’t skip over it. The beginning is essential to understanding the entire book, and once you get over the initial hump you won’t be able to put it down.

So now I have an extra copy of the amazing book (I own a copy already).

Who wants the copy I found ?

Write a response on my blog to this post in the comments section, telling me what you heard about The Seven Habits, and why you want to read it, and I will pick the most compelling response as a winner of this copy. I will contact you for your mailing address and mail you a copy of the book (I’ll cover the postage).

Instant Confidence in 10 minutes for under $5

We all experience moments of self-doubt, and sometimes all of us could use a quick boost of self-confidence.

Here is a quick confidence fix that is right under your nose. It’s been around for over 30 years and now it’s available for everybody anywhere in the world, anytime you need it, wherever you are.

You’ll only need to spend $5, and 10 minutes of your time.

The next time you’re going to meet a client for an important meeting, or a job interview, or doing a speech or any situation where you may need a quick confidence boost all you have to use is my re-discovered secret.

Are you ready for my instant confidence secret…here it is…

Listen to these 3 songs from the Rocky movies on your ipod or other MP3 listening device.

    * Eye Of The Tiger by Survivor

    * Gonna Fly Now (Theme from “Rocky”) – Bill Conti

    * Going The Distance – Bill Conti

That’s it, it’s that simple.

Listen to any one of these songs, or all three right after your moment of self doubt, and right before that big meeting, interview, or speech your giving.

Comedian Chris Rock had doubted himself before he had his big breakout moment with his HBO comedy special Bring The Pain. He talked to comedian Andrew Dice Clay who told him to watch Rocky. Bring the Pain made Rock one of the most popular comedians in America.

You don’t have to watch Rocky, though you should if you’ve never seen it, and if have 2 hours to kill. But if you don’t have 2 hours, and you’ve grown up with the Rocky movies like I did, all you need to do is listen to these songs.

If it worked for Chris Rock it can work for anybody. Let me know if it works for you!

A Defining Moment For Me When Chris Guillebeau Founder Of The Art Of Non-Conformity Blog Visits Toronto



I first heard about the term “Defining Moment” from Dr. Phil. They are the moments that happen over the span of your life that change you in some kind of way.

These moments don’t have to big, they can be small, what’s important is that your life, and your thinking are changed forever because they happened.

I had a such a moment happen on Jan 16, 2011 when I heard Chris Guillebeau the founder of The Art of Non-Conformity blog speak as part of his book tour.

If you haven’t heard of Chris, check out his blog here. Chris has set out to see every country in the world by the age of 35. and he’s already on country 149 of 192 to visit towards the realization of that goal, but that’s not why I came to hear him speak. I wanted to know more about who he is in a way that you can only know somebody when you see, and meet them in person. My impression is that he is genuine, authentic, and humble, and wants to expand his influence to connect people who want to change the world through his blog and his book.

In addition to being a globetrotter, Chris is also a writer, blogger, and published author, who lives life without conforming to societal norms. He’s self-employed, an entrepreneur, and walks-the-talk when he stresses that we should all strive to live the type of life we really want, and not the life that others want us to.

I stumbled upon his web-presence years ago by accident. I was surfing the internet for articles on how to improve my copywriting skills, and I read a post on a blog, and in the response to that post somebody mentioned that they liked Chris Guillebeau’s writing style.

Since then I’ve visited his blog a handful of times, I have become a fan of his viewpoint, and outlook on life and work. In some way I feel like stumbling upon him had inspired me to want to be a blogger.

I still have a long way to go before my blogging, writing, and publishing efforts are on par with what he’s accomplished, but his example has made me feel like I can do it too.

At the book tour he asked the audience to think about how they want to make a contribution to the world that is meaningful, and what kind of legacy they want to leave. I’m still thinking about my answers…they are good questions. I don’t have answers yet, but for now I will contribute with this blog post, and share Chris’s message with you…my readers.

Thanks Chris, for being an early inspiration for Turning Point Motivation.