You shouldn’t want him/her to deal with your problems. Try to solve them by yourself, and don’t transfer negativity to your mate. It is very good that you love your husband or wife for who they actually are, instead of trying to change them so that they can fit your expectations. Doing this is not love, meaning that such a relationship will never work.
I’ve found that a variant on some jungian psychology, referred to as ‘archetype’ work (ref Edwin Steinbrecher’s Inner Guide Meditation) have had literally mindblowing ‘reality-effects’ when done properly. The psychological resistance to doing them once the ego figures this out is another story, but as a mental tech of sorts it’s quite impressive. I am not sure why this works, though; perhaps the ‘dream symbology’ amounts to a form of inner psychotherapy that re-tunes one’s attention and inspiration. Some people attribute something cosmic to it; and it’s fun and less limited to use that model; but I don’t really know. I’m more a tech than anything else though; if it works, I’m good with that; theory can come later.
“Your fears of not making enough money are very strong,” I tell him. “They are so strong that you have adopted a poverty consciousness—a solid belief in your inability to create material wealth. Your childhood has set you up for this mentality, and it runs like a broken record in your head repeating the same situation over and over again. This is all the universe hears from you, so it obliges. Are you ready to stop the tape and write a new story?” I ask.
I do not claim to have all of those things either. However, I do have most of the things that I described and I managed to attain them through my value-based goals, plans, process-visualizations, and inspired action. I didn't ask the universe for it, you might say that the universe knew, but I was driven to get these things. I didn't act or pretend like I already had them.
The Lunar nodes will be changing signs on November 6th/7th just before the next New Moon. They have been in the Leo-Aquarius axis since May 2017 and will be going into the Cancer-Capricorn axis for the following 18 months. I will cover this more in my next article, however, this factor also signifies a shifting of energies along with Jupiter changing signs shortly after this, and Uranus also retrograding back into Aries soon.
Before we begin to wish for an ideal, we must ask what that ideal is going to get when it comes. Coupled with our desire for the ideal, therefore, we must have an equally strong desire for the remaking of ourselves so that we may become equal to that ideal in every respect. If we want an ideal companion, we must not only wish for such a companion, but we must also desire the development of those qualities in ourselves that we know would make us agreeable to that companion. If we want a different environment we should wish for such an environment with all the life and soul we possess, and should at the same time wish for the increase of those powers in our own talents that can earn such an environment. If we want a better position we should desire such a position every minute and also desire that we may become more competent to fill it when it comes.
Many may doubt the efficiency of the plan just presented, because as is well known, most people desire more money but do not always get it. But do they always wish hard enough? It is not occasional desire, or half-hearted desire that gets the thing desired. It is persistent desire; and persistent desire not only desires continually, but with all the power of life and mind and soul. The force of a half alive desire, when acting upon a certain faculty, cannot cause that faculty to become fully alive. Nor can such a desire marshal all the unused forces of the system and concentrate them all upon the attainment of the one thing wanted. And it is true that the desires of most people are neither continuous nor very deep. They are shallow, occasional wishes without enough power to stir to action a single atom.
11) Blame the Victim: The only reason that anything bad could ever happen to you is because you were thinking bad thoughts. If someone rear-ends you in a car – 100% your fault. If you get breast cancer – 100% your fault (not genetics). If you get raped or abused – 100% your fault. Children getting killed by terrorists, sick babies in the intensive care unit, victims of floods, hurricanes, natural disasters, the Holocaust – yes, their fault. We all know deep inside that this is ridiculous to even suggest. However, it is a basic, fundamental premise of the LOA. You NEVER attract something you are not thinking about. When anything bad happens to anyone, they are to blame. Don’t feel sorry for anyone who has cancer or a disease or starving children in poverty, they brought it on themselves. What causes obesity? Slow metabolism? No, fat thoughts. From LOA experts, “Disease cannot live in a body that’s in a healthy emotional state.” (Bob Proctor). “You cannot catch anything unless you think you can, and thinking you can is inviting it to you with your thought.” (From The Secret). “Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results. Suffering is always the effect of wrong thought in some direction.” (James Allen). “If man will think only thoughts of perfect health, he can cause within himself the functioning of perfect health…” (Wallace Wattles). “Every individual creates every aspect of their experiences – we are in complete control of our health throughout our entire lives. There are no accidents.” (Esther Hicks).
I am open to my spiritual journey if only to escape the chaos of physical and psychological manipulation across our world, esp in media n communications networks…only what is infinite will last, and only the spirit will be making the trip, perhaps priorities can become clear with your wisdom and help, you have been a blessed reminder of what is truly important in each individual’s soul and life. Very grateful to you and your insight and light, take good care of all….Maureen
Specifically, you attract love with people who are aligned with your vibrational state. So if you are down on yourself or lack confidence, you often find love only with people who treat you poorly and fail to recognize your worth. Therefore, looking for love with real intention requires you to form a deeper, more profound and accepting connection with yourself.
Great article! I feel exactly the same way. I wrote a similar article about The Secret and the so-called Law of Attraction back in September called What to Do When The Secret Doesn’t Work”, partly because I was frustrated by how many people were spending hours sitting around doing nothing but thinking about the things they wished they had, and partly due to an ongoing annoyance at the self-help industry’s misuse of words like “quantum” and “vibration” to make their pseudoscience seem legitimate. What’s even more frustrating is how many people buy those claims without ever questioning them.
I would ask her what she really believes about relationships. What does she really believe about men? (All men are dogs? That belief won’t bring you one who isn’t.) What was her parents’ relationship like? What do her girlfriends think about relationships – what kinds of experiences are they having and what are they saying – because we are greatly influenced by the people we hang with.
Next, spend time each day in silence focused on how it “feels” inside your body to be in the present moment with your beloved. Close your eyes and use your imagination and see them sitting across from you. As you feel the heat radiate off their body what feelings are evoked in your heart? Do you feel joyful? Excited? Relieved? Spend time feeling these feelings (it’s ok to fake it till you make it) knowing and trusting that on some cosmic level you are truly spending time with your beloved. You can even use this time to have a silent conversation with them. It’s important to do this every day. Remember, this exercise is about “feeling” not “seeing” so focus on emotions not literally trying to see them.
8) No Support: Since you will always attract what you think about, you need to avoid any type of support groups for people with mental or physical illnesses or for people with similar experiences. Research shows that support groups such as alcoholics anonymous, weight watchers, or breast cancer support are beneficial. The LOA incorrectly predicts that you will make your problems worse.
So, I will acknowledge that I came to The Secret with a negative attitude. When I bought it, I quickly stuffed it into a plastic bag, glancing around Barnes & Noble to make sure I saw no one I knew. The last time I was this embarrassed at a bookstore was when I bought The G Spot, another best-seller that provided instructions for achieving bliss. For the Human Guinea Pig column, I usually do things that readers are too embarrassed or too intelligent to do themselves—like entering a beauty pageant or entertaining at a kid's birthday party. I wanted to see if applying the rules of The Secret to my life would bring me the perfect happiness that it promises. But millions of you have already beaten me to this one. There are now 5.3 million copies of the book in print in the United States, and publisher Simon & Schuster says it is selling about 150,000 a week. A separate DVD version has sold at least 1.5 million copies. Groups have formed to discuss how to best live by The Secret's rules. It is a No. 1 best-seller in Australia, England, and Ireland, and it is scheduled to be translated into 30 languages.
How does manifesting work? How can somebody hold a thought or intention in their mind, and suddenly magically and mysteriously have the Universe materialize it for them without lifting a finger? The experience of instantaneous manifestation is a natural occurrence that can happen for anyone. Whenever you release all of your internal blocks and resistances to having what you want, and feel as if your desire has already manifested in the here and now, the results can become staggering. Manifesting may seem impossible to the mind, yet it is as natural as the warmth from the sunshine above. We are all born with this innate ability to materialize thoughts into physical form. By simply learning how to harness the power of the mind you can manifest anything you want! You have been manifesting things into your life from the time you were a small child. You have always had the power to manifest anything instantly! All that is needed is a constant positive focus of our energy into an image, and a feeling of what we want to manifest as if it is ALREADY HERE NOW!
Great article Neil! The biggest misconception about the law of attraction is people just think all you need to do is visualize and you will get what you want,we all have limiting beliefs which are chains holding us back from manifesting what we want,we’ve gotten these limiting beliefs when we were young from our parents,friends,relatives ,e.g if you’ve always been told by your parents “money doesnt grow on trees” and that becomes a deep rooted limiting belief ,its going to be hard to visualize and attract money into your life unless you get rid of the limiting beliefs, I discovered a method from a blog that showed me how to get rid of any limiting beliefs that you may have and started attracting what i wanted in just a few days ,here's the link if you want to learn how to do the same: instantlawofattraction.com/law-of-attraction-breakthrough/
5) No Date: When you live as if you have already accomplished your goals, there is no reason to establish deadlines or timelines. As Secret author Rhonda Byrne stated, “It takes no time for the Universe to manifest what you want.” While goal setting research supports the importance of establishing timelines to achieve success, LOA experts assert that it would be inappropriate to set a deadline for the universe to achieve your goal.
During Thanksgiving of 1992, Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million for ‘Acting Services Rendered’ and he dated it for Thanksgiving of 1995. He carried that check around with him no matter what he did, and it deteriorated away in his wallet. But just before Thanksgiving of 1995 he received word that he would be paid $10 million for ‘Dumb and Dumber.’
Thank you so much for explaining the term soulmate, i felt i had met my true one, but because of past life experiences, we drifted apart, i still feel he is the one, so i will start my manifestation, as you have explained. I did meet with him in passing, a week ago, and he acted so awkward towards me, a lot of things have happened in the last 18 months, but i feel we are going to reconnect, i also feel our time apart was needed, as we were not in a healthy place, i wasn’t personally because of the loss of so many close family members. But i now feel on the right path, so thank you again for explaining things in great detail.
Excelente artículo. La clave siempre será cuidar nuestro estado vibratorio ya que como vibras atraes hacia ti. La Ley de Atracción opera permanentemente de acuerdo a nuestro estado vibratorio habitual y es lo que determina lo que se manifiesta en nuestras vidas. Lo que emites, regresa a ti, sin excepciones. Mi sitio web es: http://www.leydeatraccionhoy.com/
If you don’t have clarity on what you do want, you’ll likely end up repeating the same relationships with the same personalities and the same faults. What do you miss most about your past partners? Surely there were some traits you found attractive, take those bits from each person and put them together. And don’t forget to read my previous article about preparing yourself for your next relationship along the way!
I loved the movie initially as it allowed me to talk about all sorts of important stuff like meditation and visualization with clients for the first time. Then the backlash, with people giving up because they say The Seceret and just knew that bad luck was heading their way. As JA said, there is NO LAW, it’s a hypothesis or a theory, and should be tretaed as such.
I personally think that the immense pain we are carrying inside is being seen in a very obvious, global way. We write about this a lot here at Collective Evolution. There is so much division between groups and, political parties etc that the way we are communicating with other’s has become, well, quite nasty. Are we taking our anger out on people we don’t talk to face to face because we are hurting and need to offload that somehow?
I stumbled on your page a couple weeks ago. I’ve been coping with post partum depression for the past few months. Although medication has absolutely helped take the edge off, ever since reading your words I’ve felt a consistent and steady rise in my feelings of happiness. The medication helped stabilize my depression, that’s true, but your words helped me tap into my joy. Joy I haven’t felt in years, possibly since I was a child myself.
Some days I miss the boredom that caged me in. The days that would flow along dreamily in their video game and bath-water langour, but because of the abundance I received I have found everything that I was longing for and which had for so long been out of reach. Through reflecting again on the words of the prayer I know that within the profound and sometimes difficult changes my abundance has brought to me, that I am discovering my own higher truth. If you’re willing to accept great change and aid on your path to expressing your fullest potential maybe the following prayer can help you too. Remember though, abundance is incredible, but with it comes with great responsibility. You may find the changes it can bring will not always be easy even if they are beneficial. If you do receive abundance my greatest wish is that you use it in line with your highest truth and as always that you are grateful before during and after receiving this gift.
Second I also joined some secret forums and one of them is The Power of the law of attraction website and when i started a topic about that the secret isn’t working the way they tell you too, I ve got really huge fights with all the people there, they fell over me, like flies on cows, I got banned there because I was the first who talked against them all.
12) We’re Not Perfect: The LOA is a “perfect law” and should result in a “perfect” life. We are told that no goal is too big if you can think it; there is no such thing as an unrealistic goal. From The Secret “You can think your way to the perfect state of health, the perfect body, the perfect weight, and eternal youth. You can bring it into being, through your consistent thinking of perfection.” Reality check -life is not perfect. It can be great, fantastic, amazing, incredible, even optimal. But perfect? Won’t happen. What’s the problem with this way of thinking? Why not expect perfection? Fantasizing and striving for perfect makes you feel better in the short term but actually reduces your chance of attaining your goals and results in more unhappiness and blaming. If you are only going to be satisfied with perfect results – perfect health, perfect body, perfect family, perfect marriage, perfect friendships, perfect kids, perfect house, perfect job, perfect life; you are in for a perfect disappointment. Research studies support this.
Emily has a competitive side, so I played to that by challenging her to find more coins than me, which boosted her motivation and desire to get good at it. She knows that technically it’s a fair game, and she even gave herself an advantage by walking in front of me, so she could be the first to spot new coins. And since she’s only 4’9″ inches tall, she’s a lot closer to the ground than I am.
The Traditionally Scientific Explanation: If you’re one who needs things to be a little more easy to prove, there is also a different explanation for how the law of attraction works. By focusing on attaining a new reality, and by believing it is possible, we tend to take more risks, notice more opportunities, and open ourselves up to new possibilities. Conversely, when we don’t believe that something is in the realm of possibilities for us, we tend to let opportunities pass by unnoticed. When we believe we don’t deserve good things, we behave in ways that sabotage our chances at happiness. By changing our self-talk and feelings about life, we reverse the negative patterns in our lives and create more positive, productive and healthy ones. One good thing leads to another, and the direction of a life can shift from a downward spiral to an upward ascent.
It’s ironic how I’ve already been doing these steps without knowing i was doing it..well i met my soulmate we are going through our challeging times. at first it was me i stop talking to him for six months gave no explanation i was healing from an abusive marriage had so many insecurities i began healing became whole. I was at a party had no idea i would ever see or talk to him again because i changed my number yes i saw him there i went to say something he was gone I was trying to think how will i talk or see him again I found his number we started talking again we have a deep connection but since i’ve healed i notice he has some healing to do from past marriage he was in yes 10 yrs ago he has not let go of what happened. Anyway we had a brief discussion he is holding on why i stop talking to him said when he wanted relationship i didn’t I explained it wasn’t I didn’t want one i had just gotten out of an abusive marriage i was in for 12 years he was shocked said i should have told him now he’s saying he’s not ready for a relationship right now his career i transitioning he’s deciding if he’s going to retire after 25 yrs of serving in military relationship too much. I expressed i understand since that conversation we have seen each other twice in unexpected places to see each other. I’m sharing this because i know without a doubt he’s my soulmate & i’m his soulmate actually when we first met he told me I was the one. I’m trust & believe in this love journey!! Thank you so much this is confirmation for me!!! Much love for you Gabriel
Imagine for a moment that it’s a beautiful winter morning and there’s fresh, pristine snow on the ground. You walk up to a hill with your sled, and slide down and take your first trip down to the bottom of the hill. This first time, your course was pretty random, right? Then, you walk back up to the top of the hill once more and you sled down again. Okay, the odds are that you’re going to hit at least some of the grooves you created the first time that you went down.
Try this... if you experience an event that makes you so happy and overjoyed that you want to attract more into your life then try to remember your inner emotion you had (your heart beating faster/ stomach jumping) whatever it was try to replicate that by remembering the event and then if your vibrational energy is the same as you felt in that joyous moment then it will manifest and you will attract it into your life.
Approaching money from a point of neediness or scarcity will prevent you from manifesting money. You're much better off approaching it from a point of curiosity and excitement. Think of how a child views the world – everything is new and fun. The world is filled with possibilities. Embrace that state of childlike wonder. The results are pretty spectacular!
In the New Thought philosophy, the Law of Attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from pure energy, and that through the process of like energy attracting like energy a person can improve their own health, wealth, and personal relationships.
The more you surrender, the higher you rise. When you trust that the Universe is always acting in your best interests for the greatest good of your soul then you feel protected, loved and supported. God/The Universe is everywhere and is always your safety net in times of need. Your role in the process? Go with the flow. When you do this you literally get out of your own way and allow your intentions to manifest.
When you put aside your doubts, you can begin to imagine in both mind and body what it will feel like to have your Wishes Fulfilled. Think about what you plan to manifest — then use your imagination to feel what that feels like in your body. Does it feel natural to you? Does it really feel like this is the “you” that you are deciding to be? By staying only with what your senses tell you is your reality, you place a barrier to letting your imagination create all that you wish for. Your imagination is unlimited.
Twin Flames (TF) are Cosmic Marriages of One Soul and exchange of energy of the heart that is in perfect resonance with your own frequency which mirrors you with true heart connection preordained by the cosmos with a grand plan to fulfill the prophecy of love set forth by the cosmos that the 2 as 1 will travel the Journey of Life together. This encounter happens when you’re in line and have decided to evolve and fulfill and carry out your mission and are open to your spiritual path and have the same level of awareness from the lessons life has offered you. Once your TF walks in your life, life is never the same again for they change your life like you had never imagined and this soul connection lasts a lifetime as you live out the rest of your days on this earth together and return to source as ONE.. You felt familiar the moment you met, a lovely sort of deja vu. They know you more than you know yourself. They get you when no one else does and stand by you.. TF will show you everything that is holding you back and brings it to your attention as they reveal the layers of your spirit. Spiritual light to intertwine with other half of your soul. Share same soul union and align with twin. Divine soul union of 2 twin soul coactivation of love of christ which fills each others heart with infinite light and illumination meeting together to form a union to work together in the new earth in counseling, healing and restoration, etc in Sacred Divine Unconditional Comic Love. Love being the core of your being shining light to the world in one soul energy set forth in the same vibration and frequency in a Divine Holy Partnership.. lst there will be flow in soul that brings inner peace and the flow inside of your connection is so strong that you both think alike. There are no desires of control or trying to change them, compromises, conditions, expectations, etc. Only pure existence of unconditional love w/o prejudgment. You dont have to fight for anything as in me vs you for you are truly ONE. You are in mutual agreement and trust the unknown as it unfolds. There are no vibrations of stress no matter what energy or background or planets moving in the universe. THe two of you will feel deep sacred connection within each other’s soul. You will not live in the same vibrations as traditional relationships of 3D. You both come to a position of not needing or asking or wanting or getting for there are no desires in this soul relationship for you have everything you need, want and desire within you and dont have to please each other. You know they love you and dont have to ask for love, you just receive it in your soul connection of giving and receiving as you are continuously making love with one another on a soul level. It is not necessary to have to push for anything, you just receive and give free to each other as energy moves into one another and creates beautiful synchronicity. This energy is so pure and clean that flows between you it charges both of you. You wont need a lot of sleep because of twin soul connection your body and mind state is relaxed and have peace.
I got heart broken a couple of years ago and i lost myself afterwards.. a year later I went into a random place and met this girl.. i felt like she’s calling me since the first moment I saw her.. i was on vacation by the beach.. I avoided her for the day but somehow we started talking and spent 3 days awake talking to each other’s.. then I left to my hometown without any contacts.. but she did her research reached out to me and asked me out.. I pushed her back but she insisted.. I didn’t want to be heart broken again.. then we became together for a couple of months.. the best relationship i’ve ever been into.. I felt full and happy.. I felt I found my soulmate.. I counted her in my blessings every night.. yet after 4 months she started to distance herself bit by bit.. then she broke up with me.. days later she called me back and asks to meet.. we spent 4 months talking every couple of days.. I stared feeling down and afraid I loose her.. she dated someone and she broke up.. came back to me for a couple of days as friends ( we also made love ) then a week later she goes back to the guy asks me not to approach her again and told me she doesn’t love me anymore and that she loves the guy she’s with.. now i’m Heartbroken and depressed.. I feel lonely, used and hurt.. I blame myself that I might be the reason of the negative energy that drove her away.. if i think about it I should not be with such a person.. yet I still love her and i would do anything to win her back..
Remember that there is a difference between sending out a hope that something you'd like to happen will happen and putting in the appropriate effort or planning to ensure that something actually will happen. If you don't believe that something will happen, perhaps you're not willing to plan and work for it. You need a balance of both hope (to inspire) and effort (to achieve) for an outcome to be realized.
It’s time for you to push past those beliefs and gain clarity on what it is your heart desires. I invite you to write out exactly what you want in every single area of your life. Goal-setting is not what I am suggesting you do. That will come with time, but for now, picture the life of your dreams with no limits. Pretend that you had no limiting beliefs.
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