Paychecks make you happy, while bills made you put on your cranky pants with annoyance and anxiety. You need to rewire this in order to get out of your own way. Each time you feel pissed off when a bill gets sent to you then you actively choose to block the flow of abundance and you’re inviting MORE BILLS and more expenses. Nothing is as expensive as an attitude that blocks the flow of prosperity. Learn to LOVE your money. After all, it’s just energy. 

This is the time to pamper yourself, to prove how valuable you are and to take the time to do something special for yourself. Maybe you have always wanted to stay at a beachfront hotel, get a massage or a pedicure, learn a new language, rent a particular movie, or have a gourmet dinner served in your home. No matter how big or small, the time to fulfill your desires is now.


Arielle: Living as if means stepping outside of your current reality and stepping into the reality you wish to be true. It’s when your daily actions reflect and are congruent with your belief that your soul mate exists and is already yours. The best example of this was revealed to me by a famous actress. Once she became clear that she was ready to share her life with someone, she began living as if that person were already a part of her life. She would play music she imagined he would enjoy; she wore pretty nightgowns to bed instead of her typical T-shirt and sweats. Every morning she would feel that they were waking up and starting their day together, and every night at dinner she would light candles and set a place for him at the table. According to this actress, he eventually arrived. She sent a clear message to the Universe, and the Universe delivered. Now you may not be willing to set a table for two each night when you have dinner, but start to consider what you could do to generate the feeling that you are already sharing your life with your beloved. For example, buy tickets to a concert or play that is several months away, holding the intention that you will attend it with a hot date. Or the next time you are shopping for greeting cards, pick up a couple that would be fitting to give to your beloved on a birthday or to celebrate your anniversary, knowing that sometime soon that day will be here.

I felt this book used some valuable psychological principles that have been around for many years, as the core of its text. What i found surprising is for a text that classes itself as spiritual there was a total absence in essence in themes such as compassion, wisdom, service, humility, integrity, community, selflessness. I understand the basic premise of “divine art of selfishness” – one needs to have their own house in order before they can fully contribute to and receive from life. But beyond this it seems to tap into inflated narcissism. I have not read or seen any of The Secret. I saw a bit on an Oprah show and the drooling from their self indulgent egoes was enough to turn me off. The USA has such an enormous population (300 million), it only needs someone to tap into 1% of the population that is fragmented, disempowered, alienated, fractured, hurting (and god knows the USA has created a culture of extremes between the inter generational disempowered and entrenched fundamentalism), and it has a 3 million best seller on its hands. What I have also found surprising is that the method of “spiritual wisdom” has not seemed to be openly challenged. I am open to chanelling being an option than can work. But I watched some of the Hick – Abraham on their websites. It reeks of insincerity and commercialism. And the shallow questions that are asked of these supposedly infinite all knowing spritual beings? They seem to be questions and answers that funnell into the Hicks’ narrow and already publicised philosophy of “Think and Grow Rich”. And as I stated earlier these ideas have been around for a very long time – one does not require the mystique of “chanelling” to make them appear from the ethers. That these “beings” didn’t challenge the direction of modernity amazed me. They infact endorsed it as if there is no concern that we have been creating immense and possibly irreversible environmental and cultural destruction to our planet. I imagine fundamentalist fanatics the world over would love the book’s endorsement of violence and war as being the “victim’s” fault. HayHouse Production and Oprah obviously endorse these writers. I thought both may have had some credability. I am open to the good that can come through any form of alternative thought. But either I am getting too skeptical in my maturity or these people really do know how to think and grow rich, at the expense of everything that really matters in life. Thankyou for your website. It’s very real!


Then we must also remember that results do not necessarily follow the use of a single force. Sometimes the force of persistent desire alone may do wonders, but usually it is necessary to apply in combined action all the forces of the human system. The force of desire, however, is one of the greatest of these, and when fully expressed in connection with the best talents we may possess, the thing desired will certainly be secured.  
I got a distressed call from a client some days back. Her friend had had a session with a kinesiologist, and the kinesiologist had removed an “entity” from her energy field. “My friend’s a mess,” my client told me. “The session was five days ago, but she’s still sick, shaky, and out of it. The experience was really scary. My friend felt like she was being pushed out of her body, and the kinesiologist was thrown across the room.”

The first secret to manifesting any desire is to have absolute clarity on what it exactly is that you want to manifest. The more specific your intention is, the easier it is for the Universe to know what it is you really want and answer your request. Specific desires create specific results, while vague or unclear goals create wishy-washy results. A powerful intention is also one that is a true desire, which stems from deep inside the heart. This desire is one which is totally free from any "shoulds", "need to's and "have to's". It is important that your intention feels empowering and freeing anytime you focus on it, and that the outcome you are projecting is something you can have fun visualizing happening for you. Yet, perhaps the essential key to setting a strong intention is making a declaration to the Universe out loud about what you want to manifest. Speak it as if the entire Universe can hear you, and then know it has been fully received.

Of course, you are responsible for pointing yourself in the direction of your dreams and working towards them. Effort is a big part of the equation, but it’s not all of it. You not only have to work hard for your money, you have to feel worthy of having it. How many of us doubt ourselves and our abilities to succeed? It’s not just about working harder, it’s about working smarter and being confident in yourself, your knowledge and your competency. Most of us miss this subtlety and end up in an arduous struggle against ourselves. But once you believe in yourself, you can create the life of your dreams by bending the “rules of the game” to your advantage.

It is impossible for anyone that must deal daily with a crippling disease to not be constantly reminded of the effects. Consquently there would never be a time that their energies as defined in the secret would be 100% positive. Then according to the secret their chances of uncommon success at the uncommon hour would be slim to none. I think Lance missed that part.

Your argument does not negate the law of attraction in fact it supports it from a different perspective…here is my initiation experience way back in the 97s…here i was in deep financial s..t no money..married to a man who held the strings to my life…and was forcebly trying to get me deported from his country…i escaped that reality daily within my inner world where all was good and possible..along the way i read people like schati dwayne..one day i saw an add in a magazine a contest to win a brand new toshiba computer..but alas it was only available to us residents…which i was not..my desire kicked in..i really wanted it a brand new computer..i put down the magazine and closed my eyes and visualized myself flowing upward to a place where this computer floated around the ethers and immagined myself grasping it and bringing it back to me…that was it this whole excersise i am describing as i remember it because it was not a conciouse event just a day dream and then it was gone..forgotten..exept for the reality that three months later my son came to visit and brought some newly found friends…whom as a gift for mom brought a brand new toshiba computer…flash back to my day dream…so dont know if that was working according to the law of attraction or the power of visualization…what ever it was it made a believer an practioner out of me…that toshiba gave birth to a multimillion dollar domain name business…thank you for allowing me to share my story.
To make every desire subconscious, the subconscious mind should always be included in the process of desire; that is, whenever we express a desire we should think of the subconscious, and combine the thought of that desire with our thought of the subconscious mind. Every desire should be deeply felt as all deeply felt mental actions become subconscious actions. It is an excellent practice to let every desire sink into the deeper mental life, so to speak; and also to act in and through that deeper mental life, whenever we give expression to desire; or, in other words, when we turn on the full force and power of that desire. To become proficient in these methods requires some practice, though all that is necessary to become proficient is to continue to try. No special rule is required. Begin by feeling your desires through and through. Make them as strong and as deep as you can, and always combine the living action of your desire with your thought of those faculties through which you know that desire is to work.

Acceptance. The next principle of conscious manifestation is acceptance. I don’t mean giving up or attitude saying ‘whatever’. What I’m talking here about is acceptance of your new belief and that it’s true for yourself and you can have it. Just accept that it’s already yours. Don’t focus on reasons why it shouldn’t work out, instead surrender yourself to your desire and fully accept it in your life. Accept that this is what you want and that you want to have it.


Under laboratory conditions, cutting edge science has confirmed that every thought is made up of energy and has its own unique frequency. And when this energy and frequency of a single thought radiates out into the Universe, it naturally interacts with the material world. Of course, it has long been known that matter, or physical objects, are also just packets of energy at the sub-microscopic, quantum level. And so, as your thought radiates out, it attracts the energy and frequencies of like thoughts, like objects, and even like people, and draws those things back to you.
If it is your burning desire to become a professional basketball player, ask yourself how natural it feels to you to be on the court, competing at the professional level. If this feels unnatural to you, you may eventually, with persistence, achieve this wish fulfilled, but only until you have become so aligned with that experience that it feels completely natural to dunk a basketball and sink a free-throw.
Although the Law of Attraction is a very simple process, many of us still struggle to manifest the things we really want.  This is because we’ve often adopted behaviors and beliefs over the years that are not harmonious with conscious creation.  To help make things easier, here are a few quick secrets to the Law of Attraction many people either don’t know, or forget to keep in mind on a regular basis. 

Thank you so much for explaining the term soulmate, i felt i had met my true one, but because of past life experiences, we drifted apart, i still feel he is the one, so i will start my manifestation, as you have explained. I did meet with him in passing, a week ago, and he acted so awkward towards me, a lot of things have happened in the last 18 months, but i feel we are going to reconnect, i also feel our time apart was needed, as we were not in a healthy place, i wasn’t personally because of the loss of so many close family members. But i now feel on the right path, so thank you again for explaining things in great detail.
Last fall, I was a keynote speaker on “Sacred Punany Power and Self-Esteem” at Chicago Ideas Week. It was a rousing crowd, but afterward a woman named Liz came up to me, practically yelling. “I follow your YouTube and Instagram, she shouted, but I disagree when you talk about the Law of Attraction. You say that most of us are creating by default. Well, I keep attracting crappy relationships that I would never create on purpose, what should I do?” Liz, I’ve got your back, sis. It’s time to go deeper on a metaphysical level.
In 2006, the concept of the Law of Attraction gained a lot of renewed exposure with the release of the film The Secret (2006) which was then developed into a book of the same title in 2007. The movie and book gained widespread media coverage.[1][21][22] Rhonda Byrne's book also has influenced the creation of an untitled fiction film based on The Secret, starring Katie Holmes.[23] This was followed by a sequel, The Power in 2010 that talks about the law of attraction being the law of love.[24]
Finally, make the final decision what this person is like, and decide that from now on, you’ll do everything you can to be with this wonderful soul mate of yours. It all starts without a decision – without it, you’re lost in life and you’ll give up on the first obstacle! But once you make a firm decision that YES, this is what  I want and I am going to GET IT, then you set the most powerful forces in the Universe to do your bidding – even though you’re not aware of what you’re actually doing!
A magnetized piece of iron will lift twelve times its own weight. But demagnetized, it won’t even lift the weight of a feather. Your mind works in a similar way. Magnetized with Creative Thinking and Positive Expectation, you embody the “Law of Attraction”. This means that what you think, say, and do attracts an enormous number of external assets (the commitment, support, and dedicated efforts of other people, the inherent advantages, benefits, and rewards of every situation). This ebook contains 25 activities to help you understand and use the law of attraction TODAY.

Begin by training yourself to notice love in the world around you, from your personal relationships to images in media to the people in your neighbourhood. For example, I’ve felt my heart break a little (in a good way!) from watching older couples walk down the street hand in hand. Despite all the madness in the world at large, love is still plentiful. All you need to do is train yourself to see it.


The preparation for welcoming your soul mate requires that you make a conscious commitment to start healing the deepest wounds of your heart. Notice that I said “start” healing the deepest wounds of your heart, because for the majority of us, this is a lifelong process and it doesn’t mean you have to be fully healed to manifest your One.  In fact, one of the things that a soul mate will do is HELP you to heal your deepest emotional wounds, and chances are you’ll be helping them heal their deepest emotional wounds as well.  BUT you must be willing to clear out all of the past hurts, anger, resentments, and anything else that makes up the thick wall of protection and distrust that you have built around your heart so that you can start welcoming love in.
The Spiritual Explanation: Many people believe that the Law of Attraction works by aligning God or the Universe with our wishes. We are all made of energy, and our energy operates at different frequencies. We can change our frequency of energy with positive thoughts, especially gratitude for what we already have. By using grateful, positive thoughts and feelings and by focusing on our dreams — rather than our frustrations, we can change the frequency of our energy, and the law of attraction brings positive things into our lives. What we attract depends on where and how we focus our attention, but we must believe that it’s already ours, or soon will be.
5. Challenge Your Limitations. We tend to place limitations on ourselves that we do not need to have. Here are a few limitations that make no sense: being too old, young, smart, stupid, wrong color, wrong sex, too tall, short, not enough money etc. If your mind falls into one of these or other limitations, wipe it out and move forward with your dreams.
Nice article and thanks for the sharing.What i have learn from law of attraction in my business is Most of the time, failure in people is basically a subconscious acceptance of negative Declarative Statements. For example, saying things like, “My money always goes out faster than it comes in”, or, “Business is good only around special occasions,” are negative statements. Anything that makes you feel bad or say something negative about yourself or your business is a negative Declarative Statement. The Law of Attraction will attract anything that you pay attention to. Stick to the positive and you will attract the positive. Keep thinking about the negative and that is all you will attract. The Law of Attraction does not care whether you want something or not or whether it will be good for you or not. It simple takes your current mood or feeling and goes ahead with it.
To use the law of attraction to get what you want from the universe, meditate for 5 minutes so you’re fully relaxed. Then, after your meditate, think about something specific you want that you’re passionate about. Envision the thing clearly in your mind and ask the universe to make it happen. You can also try writing it down in the present tense so you can focus on it more clearly. Repeat every day until your wish comes true.

Arielle: In addition to healing your heart from past relationships, you need to create a clear intention.  The analogy I like to use it this: When you walk into your favorite coffee hangout what is the first thing you do?  Place your order.  You confidently tell the barista, “I will have a tall, half-caff, low-fat mocha latte, with a splash of non-sugar vanilla syrup to go.”  The barista smiles, writes your order on the side of a cup and takes your money.  Within minutes you are walking out the door with the precise, delicious cup of coffee that you ordered.  Ordering up a soul mate from the Universe works in a similar way.  It’s not always as instantaneous but it can be just as precise. But to have the Universe to deliver your perfect soul mate, you must first clearly place your order. This isn’t quite as easy as it sounds. You must first search your heart for what you really, really desire. By now you know what you don’t want but you need to ask for what you do want.  In the Soulmate Kit we explain how to place your order by creating a detailed list and we then provide a variety of rituals to do to release your list to the Universe.


Now that you understand what the Law of Attraction really is and how it works, let’s talk about the ways you can use it to improve your life. The Law of Attraction is a universal principle that is already working in your life. Start intentionally thinking and feeling what it is you want to attract into your life — such as money, love and relationships, health and spirituality — to make the Law of Attraction work for you.
The following weeks were amazing. I literally received stacks of checks in the mail every few days. I also received a large some of money for the initial session fee for writing the song. All of the money made it possible for me to leave my boring midwestern city soon thereafter. In fact it was only 7 days after signing the contract that I put all of my things in storage, got in my car and drove away. 
1) Let go of the need to “know” – as human beings we are always striving for certainty. We want life to appear in clear, black and white terms so we can make our plans and move on with our lives.  Manifesting requires that we first let go of our need to know when and how our beloved will appear and to begin to trust that our desires are being fulfilled even though we can’t yet see the proof.
If you want the universe to work in your favor, you also need to do your part. According to Harry, manifesting the love you want really depends on you and how open you are to receiving it. "Opportunities can occur immediately or it could take some time, this depends on how aware you are," she says. For instance, if your friends keep asking you to go out with them on a Friday night but you keep turning them down, you're limiting your opportunities. Maybe the universe is just waiting for you to say yes so it can introduce you to the love of your life, but you keep saying no. "This phenomenon works like magic," Harry says. "Just make sure your eyes are wide open and you observe everything that goes on." So always be present and be aware of the opportunities the universe throws your way.
It’s ironic how I’ve already been doing these steps without knowing i was doing it..well i met my soulmate we are going through our challeging times. at first it was me i stop talking to him for six months gave no explanation i was healing from an abusive marriage had so many insecurities i began healing became whole. I was at a party had no idea i would ever see or talk to him again because i changed my number yes i saw him there i went to say something he was gone I was trying to think how will i talk or see him again I found his number we started talking again we have a deep connection but since i’ve healed i notice he has some healing to do from past marriage he was in yes 10 yrs ago he has not let go of what happened. Anyway we had a brief discussion he is holding on why i stop talking to him said when he wanted relationship i didn’t I explained it wasn’t I didn’t want one i had just gotten out of an abusive marriage i was in for 12 years he was shocked said i should have told him now he’s saying he’s not ready for a relationship right now his career i transitioning he’s deciding if he’s going to retire after 25 yrs of serving in military relationship too much. I expressed i understand since that conversation we have seen each other twice in unexpected places to see each other. I’m sharing this because i know without a doubt he’s my soulmate & i’m his soulmate actually when we first met he told me I was the one. I’m trust & believe in this love journey!! Thank you so much this is confirmation for me!!! Much love for you Gabriel

The Traditionally Scientific Explanation: If you’re one who needs things to be a little more easy to prove, there is also a different explanation for how the law of attraction works. By focusing on attaining a new reality, and by believing it is possible, we tend to take more risks, notice more opportunities, and open ourselves up to new possibilities. Conversely, when we don’t believe that something is in the realm of possibilities for us, we tend to let opportunities pass by unnoticed. When we believe we don’t deserve good things, we behave in ways that sabotage our chances at happiness. By changing our self-talk and feelings about life, we reverse the negative patterns in our lives and create more positive, productive and healthy ones. One good thing leads to another, and the direction of a life can shift from a downward spiral to an upward ascent.


You may not realize it but resenting someone or being unwilling to forgive them actually binds you to them. Make a list of the ex-lovers with whom you are still harboring grudges or resentment.  Write each a detailed letter expressing your upset.  Give yourself permission to go full out as you will never mail these letters.  Then, write a second letter – this time from your ex-loves point of view. Then read all the letters out loud to your self with the intention of allowing any remaining animosity to dissipate. When we heal the scars of our pasts we open the door to a more fulfilling future.
Energy of soul so strong and powerful and intense. Feels fear deep inside and wants to run away from feelings and try to cut contact off. The man runs in fear of love for he is not use to vibration with soul. Has internal conflict that drives him crazy for he doesnt understand soul love. He only understands what he can touch in physical and from his heart. He has never been exposed to soul love. Fear of the male is about the magical power of love and fear of the unknown and he thinks of running because he has to face the unknown. He needs space in his man cave to process. He fears change and loosing what he has built in in material world of life and what they possess in letting go or what doing now.. Needs to understand they have to have peace and love inside soul for nothing else matters. When he begins to live from the heart, self and soul with no fear then knows in heart that everything is o.k and is ordained by God.. He reacts in a different way from the soul and knows is is connected to pure Divine love and how to connect from heart and soul into Soul Love. He is calm in his soul with vibration of peace as he accepts the truth of this union. Real man listens to obey his soul and as he listens to intuition, it leads him from his heart what he needs to do to embrace this divine soul love union in this magical part of the partnership of magical love and exhange with twin. Has power to say, “I Love You” in front of eyes to twin for it is a prerequisite which allows soul relationship to flow and increase love at higher levels and is being his true self. He has embraced SOUL LOVE when uses this dignity to come out and not be afraid and share feelings and not run and hide them. Steps into real power next to his beloved he loves unconditionally. It is part of a Divine shift and process of evolution with your twin. Acceptance, will wake up refreshed and happy and weight taken off you. It comes in to clear your consciousness for everything to be o.k when you make shift. When you open to truth dont have to hide. Can say what have to say. Wanting twin for sex or lust is not soul love
I personally think that the immense pain we are carrying inside is being seen in a very obvious, global way.  We write about this a lot here at Collective Evolution. There is so much division between groups and, political parties etc that the way we are communicating with other’s has become, well, quite nasty.  Are we taking our anger out on people we don’t talk to face to face because we are hurting and need to offload that somehow?

Energy of soul so strong and powerful and intense. Feels fear deep inside and wants to run away from feelings and try to cut contact off. The man runs in fear of love for he is not use to vibration with soul. Has internal conflict that drives him crazy for he doesnt understand soul love. He only understands what he can touch in physical and from his heart. He has never been exposed to soul love. Fear of the male is about the magical power of love and fear of the unknown and he thinks of running because he has to face the unknown. He needs space in his man cave to process. He fears change and loosing what he has built in in material world of life and what they possess in letting go or what doing now.. Needs to understand they have to have peace and love inside soul for nothing else matters. When he begins to live from the heart, self and soul with no fear then knows in heart that everything is o.k and is ordained by God.. He reacts in a different way from the soul and knows is is connected to pure Divine love and how to connect from heart and soul into Soul Love. He is calm in his soul with vibration of peace as he accepts the truth of this union. Real man listens to obey his soul and as he listens to intuition, it leads him from his heart what he needs to do to embrace this divine soul love union in this magical part of the partnership of magical love and exhange with twin. Has power to say, “I Love You” in front of eyes to twin for it is a prerequisite which allows soul relationship to flow and increase love at higher levels and is being his true self. He has embraced SOUL LOVE when uses this dignity to come out and not be afraid and share feelings and not run and hide them. Steps into real power next to his beloved he loves unconditionally. It is part of a Divine shift and process of evolution with your twin. Acceptance, will wake up refreshed and happy and weight taken off you. It comes in to clear your consciousness for everything to be o.k when you make shift. When you open to truth dont have to hide. Can say what have to say. Wanting twin for sex or lust is not soul love


So think back to the dream relationship you wrote down in the first exercise. Why not start talking to that person like they’re actually here? You totally can. What would you be saying to them right now? First thing in the morning? Last thing before bed? Have a conversation out loud with them in your car or in the shower. Or if you can’t bring yourself to actually do it out loud, write a letter, email or even a nice long text.

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It’s time for you to push past those beliefs and gain clarity on what it is your heart desires. I invite you to write out exactly what you want in every single area of your life. Goal-setting is not what I am suggesting you do. That will come with time, but for now, picture the life of your dreams with no limits. Pretend that you had no limiting beliefs.

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